This article is not about Women Empowerment or Atrocities on Women. This focuses on three words which describe a “Women “– Strong willed, Steadfast and Strong Minded. These words sounds really nice and but do you think today’s society accepts them and let them breathe in the environment. I m writing this because I want people to change their thought process and see the reality.
Today we talk about the society changing and accepting Women as strong person and allowing them to take their own decision related to career, marriage and preferences in life. But my question to all women is - Are they able to sustain it for longer? Are they able to follow their passion or ambition in life? Or do they only work for economic independence?
We all know it’s important for couple’s to work simultaneously to run the house, raise their children, and have a luxurious life. But why do they miss out on the emotional dependence, not on each other but on oneself. My focus is on having emotional stability to make a healthy living and prosperous relationship by just incorporating some positive thoughts and strengthening their emotions by handling difficulties in life.
Going back to the second paragraph, I feel Women always land up compromising on most of the things and ignoring their passion in life. But some manage to follow them and inspire others to do it too, I will want to throw some light on some experiences in my life which helps me think differently and makes me a strong person.
During my school days, I was always a tomboy and enjoyed being a sports captain. Everything I did was mostly with boys – could be playing volley ball in the sun, one –on – one in basket ball or just hanging out. But as I started growing up, things started to change and people started seeing me as different person. We all grow in different phases of life but do you think our motives (underlying behaviour) always remain same. The answer is yes, it does. I meant, today I may be changed women with a successful corporate life, good set of friends and family but what I had when I was a child or what I liked as a child will always be my passion.
I can say all this because I have experienced it in my life, I always liked adventure sports and have experienced that adrenaline rush but was never able to proceed further.But today I can proudly say I follow what I like and what I believe along with my work. It’s just stepping out of our comfort zone and finding right kind of people who will motivate you and guide you through the right way and show you what you are capable of in life. Being a women, we can get scared for zillion of things but at the end of the day you are what you are and considered equal in this society. It’s our strength and patience which takes us to places and we as women have more perseverance and endurance to perform any task.
I experienced all these or rather learnt about myself from Rock Climbing. I started this in March 2011 and this has shown me what all it needs to achieve and what all it needs to execute. We think these extreme activities are not for women because it requires strength but that’s a wrong perception everyone has about such activities.
While climbing, I met a women named Archana Sardana who came with her kids for Rock Climbing and I was shocked to know that she was one of India’s few women skydivers. Today this homemaker, wife of a Naval Officer, has become India's first and only woman B.A.S.E jumper (Jumping from Buildings, Antennas, Span and Earth (Cliffs), officially one of the world's riskiest extreme sports, with a single parachute (no reserve parachute) and very little time to react for emergencies. “The freefalls last for a couple of seconds, after that it is a question of how you fly your canopy. It’s definitely far more exciting than skydiving and infinitely riskier. Infact it is real daredevilry”, says Archana
I was amazed to know that she started BASE jumping 4 years back and have been really passionate about it since then. You learn a lot from these adventure activities, it could be related to some qualities that are required to succeed in every walk of life. It’s important for women to learn and imbibe such qualities. The qualities may include leadership, team spirit, passion, learning to never give up, self-confidence, humility, empathy, responsibility, learning to be one with nature, etc.
Another woman I admire is “Gul Panag” she is a women with Beauty, Brains and Boldness. She does what her hearts tells her to do without being bothered about anyone else. I m completely influenced by such kind of women because they show how important is to believe in ourselves to perform any kind of activities.
I m not suggesting that every women should get into adventure activities to figure out their deep sense but it’s a way to show that there are various activities which can help you build your self- confidence in you. There are many women in different field who can be our inspiration to guide us through right path. We just have to figure out where our passion lies and what do we like doing or probably what do I see myself doing in next 5 years. It could be being an entrepreneur, following dance or singing which you left behind, writing a book etc.
It is possible to do it with your normal routine or your corporate life, first figure out what have you been missing all this while or what is that you left behind after your college. Then figure out where can you go to practise those activities, accordingly dig out an hour a day for your passion. My emphasis is more on women because they tend to suppress their feelings and ambition for family. I only want them to dig out sometime from their busy schedule so that they land up respecting themselves which in return help them to be emotionally stable.
I can continue writing to help women find themselves but I want each individual to figure out their own interest, strengths and weaknesses. This will give more internal peace, support and confidence to live a prosperous life.
I read it somewhere that “You cannot keep a good women down” - something that you say which means that a person with a strong character will always succeed, even if they have a lot of problems.
Today we talk about the society changing and accepting Women as strong person and allowing them to take their own decision related to career, marriage and preferences in life. But my question to all women is - Are they able to sustain it for longer? Are they able to follow their passion or ambition in life? Or do they only work for economic independence?
We all know it’s important for couple’s to work simultaneously to run the house, raise their children, and have a luxurious life. But why do they miss out on the emotional dependence, not on each other but on oneself. My focus is on having emotional stability to make a healthy living and prosperous relationship by just incorporating some positive thoughts and strengthening their emotions by handling difficulties in life.
Going back to the second paragraph, I feel Women always land up compromising on most of the things and ignoring their passion in life. But some manage to follow them and inspire others to do it too, I will want to throw some light on some experiences in my life which helps me think differently and makes me a strong person.
During my school days, I was always a tomboy and enjoyed being a sports captain. Everything I did was mostly with boys – could be playing volley ball in the sun, one –on – one in basket ball or just hanging out. But as I started growing up, things started to change and people started seeing me as different person. We all grow in different phases of life but do you think our motives (underlying behaviour) always remain same. The answer is yes, it does. I meant, today I may be changed women with a successful corporate life, good set of friends and family but what I had when I was a child or what I liked as a child will always be my passion.
I can say all this because I have experienced it in my life, I always liked adventure sports and have experienced that adrenaline rush but was never able to proceed further.But today I can proudly say I follow what I like and what I believe along with my work. It’s just stepping out of our comfort zone and finding right kind of people who will motivate you and guide you through the right way and show you what you are capable of in life. Being a women, we can get scared for zillion of things but at the end of the day you are what you are and considered equal in this society. It’s our strength and patience which takes us to places and we as women have more perseverance and endurance to perform any task.
I experienced all these or rather learnt about myself from Rock Climbing. I started this in March 2011 and this has shown me what all it needs to achieve and what all it needs to execute. We think these extreme activities are not for women because it requires strength but that’s a wrong perception everyone has about such activities.
While climbing, I met a women named Archana Sardana who came with her kids for Rock Climbing and I was shocked to know that she was one of India’s few women skydivers. Today this homemaker, wife of a Naval Officer, has become India's first and only woman B.A.S.E jumper (Jumping from Buildings, Antennas, Span and Earth (Cliffs), officially one of the world's riskiest extreme sports, with a single parachute (no reserve parachute) and very little time to react for emergencies. “The freefalls last for a couple of seconds, after that it is a question of how you fly your canopy. It’s definitely far more exciting than skydiving and infinitely riskier. Infact it is real daredevilry”, says Archana
I was amazed to know that she started BASE jumping 4 years back and have been really passionate about it since then. You learn a lot from these adventure activities, it could be related to some qualities that are required to succeed in every walk of life. It’s important for women to learn and imbibe such qualities. The qualities may include leadership, team spirit, passion, learning to never give up, self-confidence, humility, empathy, responsibility, learning to be one with nature, etc.
Another woman I admire is “Gul Panag” she is a women with Beauty, Brains and Boldness. She does what her hearts tells her to do without being bothered about anyone else. I m completely influenced by such kind of women because they show how important is to believe in ourselves to perform any kind of activities.
I m not suggesting that every women should get into adventure activities to figure out their deep sense but it’s a way to show that there are various activities which can help you build your self- confidence in you. There are many women in different field who can be our inspiration to guide us through right path. We just have to figure out where our passion lies and what do we like doing or probably what do I see myself doing in next 5 years. It could be being an entrepreneur, following dance or singing which you left behind, writing a book etc.
It is possible to do it with your normal routine or your corporate life, first figure out what have you been missing all this while or what is that you left behind after your college. Then figure out where can you go to practise those activities, accordingly dig out an hour a day for your passion. My emphasis is more on women because they tend to suppress their feelings and ambition for family. I only want them to dig out sometime from their busy schedule so that they land up respecting themselves which in return help them to be emotionally stable.
I can continue writing to help women find themselves but I want each individual to figure out their own interest, strengths and weaknesses. This will give more internal peace, support and confidence to live a prosperous life.
I read it somewhere that “You cannot keep a good women down” - something that you say which means that a person with a strong character will always succeed, even if they have a lot of problems.
Good read, Suditi! I could relate it to what you were saying about how you admire strong women during our recent trip.
ReplyDeleteFiguring out what one wants to do is the most important part, I feel. Rest all then automatically falls in place.
P.S: Archana Sardana is my friend's friend. Small world :)
Thanks Neha:) Looking forward to read your blog too!!
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